US MoMs
February 2, 2009 by Christie Garcia
Filed under Mom Talk
Here I am trying to think of something to write about and my mind just draws a blank. I want to write about some things but I am not really sure if I should. I always want to write the truth and write from my heart. But sometimes its hard for me to do that, and sometimes its scary to me. You know sometimes I wonder if our kids, our husbands, our families, our friends, remember that us moms here are human too. That we have feelings too. Just cause we are Moms, and we are strong and tuff, doesnt mean we dont get hurt too! We have to be hard cause thats our job! And if we didnt love you we wouldnt care, and we wouldnt be hard! Know what I mean?! Are we just suppposed to go on from day to day and hide our hurt feelings, our sadness, our broken heart, our frustrations, cause we are the mom??? I dont think its very healthy for us to do that. We need to say what we feel too, and be able to talk about it openly and without fear. Without worrying that someone is going to get mad or upset. We all should be able to talk to each other without fear. I know there are some of us moms out there stuck in the middle of the step dad and your child too. Thats a terrible place to be! I know cause I have been there. You dont want to fight with your hubby, and you know part of what hes saying and thinking is true and is right. Then again you dont want to fight with your child, cause they are right too, and they are hurting too. Then you have your hubby saying you better tell your child this and that. And your child saying you need to tell him that and this! Ugh!! And then you just want to scream! But you cant, cause if you tell either of them what you really think or how you really feel it will start world war three!! Right!?! I so know how that is. You feel like you are going to explode. And you are so tired of talking to everyone about it. And you have been praying about too, more then ever! And in the Bible it does say you are to submit to your husband, and stand by him ,and respect him. But deep in your heart you feel you cant do this, that he is not right in what he does, and the way he is. And then either is your child, or children. They do really back talk, and walk all over you and etc. . So part of both of them is right . And part of both of them is wrong. You have tried talking to both of them about this. I do not like being stuck in the middles at all. I do not like all arguing either. I have no golden answer for all of this either. I wish there was some magic way to teach people and familes how to communicate and open up to each other. Communication is not only a long word to spell but its a big word to act on also. Being able to communicate with others and being able to debate calmly , if you will is a challenge in its self. I dont know to many people who can do this. I am one of them. I have gotten better over the years though. I try to hear others out, to hear their opinion, but I still need to work on the keeping my mouth shut part. Its so true that it takes many years for us to learn how to do things. And allot of experience too! And I do know that its true that our kids do what we do, not what we say. I think that us Moms have a great big job, more then people realize. And even us women who arent moms but take care of a home and etc. There is allot of responsibility put on us. Yet we are supposed to be this feminen , delicate, soft, smelling good, beautiful woman too. Okay so we are supposed to be rocks on the inside and delicate flowers on the outside.?? I think its hard to be both. But we are both, we do set the tone in our homes, and we do take care of mostly everything in the home, and out of it too. And allot of us women make most of the decisons too. Now while I am sure that there are those who like it this way and then there are those who dont. And its no wonder we can make it on our own. We are tuff and we are strong!! God gave us a strong will to survive with or without a partener. Although I would prefer to grow old with a partner, with my hubby. But us women we are pretty awesome dont ya think!?! We can do it all, and yet we can be so gentle too. We have compassion for the smallest of things and yet can take on mountains! God made us this way! We love with all our heart and soul.And at the same time we dont let anything stand in our way. We get the job done, and we get it done right!! It doesnt take us that long either!! Ha!
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About the author Christie Garcia is Mom to 7 children, ages 8 to 31. She also has 4 granddaughters, ages 1 to 7. Christie lives with several diseases, still in the process of being fully diagnosed. It is Christie's desire to interact with other mom's who are going through stuff too, to encourage, strengthen and build each other up. Read more from this authorRelated posts:
