Benefits of an Open Door Policy in Your Home
April 25, 2009 by Christie Garcia
Filed under Teens
Do you have an open door policy? Meaning, can your daughter and her friends hang out at your house whenever they want? I just recently watched an episode of Wife Swap. Both ladies on the show had swapped places with each other and both families had teenage girls. One of the moms allowed her daughter(s) to have company anytime including male friends without supervision, while the other never allowed her daughters to have friends over.
The show was a bit sad, with both of the situations being a bit extreme.One set of girls was completely out of control while the other set was so sheltered and honestly quite pitiful as they were treated so negatively by their parents. Neither set really had a healthy situation in my opinion, which made me think there had to be a happy medium.
It is important that we allow our daughters to have some freedom, especially our teens. But we also have to give restrictions too. There has to be a sense of trust established in order for proper restrictions and balance to be maintained. A good practice is an open door policy that includes allowing friends to visit when there is adult supervision. You will be surprised how much you can learn from and about your daughter as you witness her interacting with her friends.
Not only will this help you in your relationship with your daughter, your knowledge of her friends and the way that she interacts with them, but it will also help her in her ability to face temptation and say no to it. She will realize the support that she has in you, as you faithfully back her up and encourage her, not to mention are open to her ideas, and the friendships that she seeks to maintain become a part of your whole family, not just her life but all of your lives.
The friends that she has come over will begin to see the love that you have for your daughter and will begin to respect you, your rules, and your morals and viewpoints. They will then be more likely to refrain from pressuring your daughter with temptations that they know you would be against. They would have a greater sense of responsibility to you as they too have a relationship with you. Then, there is much to be said about how much better you’ll know her friends and how much they will respect you for having them around, opening up your doors, your home and your life to them. It can really do wonders for not only your relationship with your daughter(s) but also your relationship with her friends and her relationship with them as well.
Alyssa Avant is a Christian, speaker, blogger and podcaster. She creates guides to help moms encourage their daughters and help to “turn the hearts of girls towards God”. Help your daughter to “say no” with her Seven Easy Tips Encouraging Your Daughter to Say No Guide. Click Here!
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About the author Christie Garcia is Mom to 7 children, ages 8 to 31. She also has 4 granddaughters, ages 1 to 7. Christie lives with several diseases, still in the process of being fully diagnosed. It is Christie's desire to interact with other mom's who are going through stuff too, to encourage, strengthen and build each other up. Read more from this authorRelated posts:
